Years ago, Dr Gary Chapman wrote a book titled Five Love Languages. He contends that the methods we use to communicate with each other can be broken down to five categories, or languages: quality time, gifts, words of affirmation, physical touch, and acts of service. Each of us speak a "primary" love language and a "secondary" love language.
We feel most fulfilled when we are communicating --speaking and being spoken to -- in our primary love language. If you seem to be having difficulty connecting with someone, take a look at how you're communicating.
For example if you notice a co-worker seems to need more reassurance than you do and thrives on positive feedback, her primary love language is most likely words of affirmation. Someone who always shakes hands, hugs, or puts a hand on your arm or back while speaking to you probably has physical touch as a primary love language. If someone needs words of affirmation to feel fulfilled, and she's getting a handshake in the morning and no positive feedback on the results of her work, it's easy to see why she doesn't feel content and secure.
In our dealings with people, if we try to focus in on which love language yields the best response, we'll know which method to use to effectively communicate with that individual.
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In love and light,
Krystal Kay White
Thursday, February 28, 2013
Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Bad Reading Gone Good?
I went to a psychic fair a few years ago. When I arrived, I walked around trying to get a feel for who I wanted to get a reading from. I choose a reader, got a reading, and left feeling pretty unhappy about my decision.
He really couldn't provide any answers for me, and when he did speak it was in generalities. The messages he had for me were so generic, that the session was borderline insulting to people who are using their spirituality to truly be of service to others. I left thinking that between the admission fee, parking fee, and reading fee; I had just wasted a lot of money.
In the car on the way home I kept thinking, "I could have done a better job than him." I said that to myself so many times, that I started to analyze it. Could I do a better job? Am I *that* gifted? Or am I just a little disappointed in him? Or could I do this? Well, I quickly talked myself out of the idea of giving readings, even though I had been doing them on an amatuer level for years.
Fast forward a few years, and I finally started to build confidence in my skills, talents, and gifts. I enrolled in the Certified Angel Card Reader course, and expect to get my certificate in about three weeks. I still feel like there's a ton I could learn, but now I realize that learning never ends. When you stop learning, you stop growing.
The "bad reading" ended up being, in a sense, a jumping off point for me. When I look back, I wish I would have picked up on that message a little bit sooner, but I also know that I wasn't ready then. And now I am.
In love and light,
Krystal Kay White
He really couldn't provide any answers for me, and when he did speak it was in generalities. The messages he had for me were so generic, that the session was borderline insulting to people who are using their spirituality to truly be of service to others. I left thinking that between the admission fee, parking fee, and reading fee; I had just wasted a lot of money.
In the car on the way home I kept thinking, "I could have done a better job than him." I said that to myself so many times, that I started to analyze it. Could I do a better job? Am I *that* gifted? Or am I just a little disappointed in him? Or could I do this? Well, I quickly talked myself out of the idea of giving readings, even though I had been doing them on an amatuer level for years.
Fast forward a few years, and I finally started to build confidence in my skills, talents, and gifts. I enrolled in the Certified Angel Card Reader course, and expect to get my certificate in about three weeks. I still feel like there's a ton I could learn, but now I realize that learning never ends. When you stop learning, you stop growing.
The "bad reading" ended up being, in a sense, a jumping off point for me. When I look back, I wish I would have picked up on that message a little bit sooner, but I also know that I wasn't ready then. And now I am.
In love and light,
Krystal Kay White
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
How Do I Find a Good Reader?
When I mention Angel Card readings, or Tarot card readings, to people, I'm often asked something along the line of "How do I know if someone is a good reader?" My answer is, there are no good and bad readers. You may feel a strong connection with a certain card reader or psychic, while someone else you know is blasting the same person for being a fake.
When you're looking for a reader, trust your intuition and let it guide you to the right person. If you're feeling pulled toward a certain person, go with that. Likewise, if you feel skeptical or distrustful toward someone else, go with that. Some readers are highly focused on one particular topic. So if you know a reader who does a lot of readings about love and romance, and you have career concerns, there's probably something causing you to hesitate. It doesn't make that person a bad reader. It just means that it's not the best time for you two to connect.
Likewise, sometimes the Angels just don't think it's in your best interest to have certain information right now. So they don't answer your question. Or they may have a message that they've been trying to give you on other levels. If they haven't been able get through to you, they'll use a reading to deliver their message, regardless of what your question was.
I hope that clears things up a bit. Stay tuned for tomorrow's post about a "bad" reading I received, that turned out to be a very important "message in disguise."
In love and light,
Krystal Kay White
When you're looking for a reader, trust your intuition and let it guide you to the right person. If you're feeling pulled toward a certain person, go with that. Likewise, if you feel skeptical or distrustful toward someone else, go with that. Some readers are highly focused on one particular topic. So if you know a reader who does a lot of readings about love and romance, and you have career concerns, there's probably something causing you to hesitate. It doesn't make that person a bad reader. It just means that it's not the best time for you two to connect.
Likewise, sometimes the Angels just don't think it's in your best interest to have certain information right now. So they don't answer your question. Or they may have a message that they've been trying to give you on other levels. If they haven't been able get through to you, they'll use a reading to deliver their message, regardless of what your question was.
I hope that clears things up a bit. Stay tuned for tomorrow's post about a "bad" reading I received, that turned out to be a very important "message in disguise."
In love and light,
Krystal Kay White
Monday, February 25, 2013
Food, Exercise, and Taking Care of Yourself
Weight and health issues are a big concern for a lot of people. Our relationship with food can be so complex. I think we all have a good idea of what and how we should be eating, but putting that into practical application is a different story. The same goes for exercise.
Our eating habits and activity levels boil down to our willingness to take care of ourselves. And I say willingness, because we have the ability to take care of ourselves, we just don't always carry it out.
As I thought about this topic, I realized I don't need to pull a card. The messages to take care of ourselves are all around us. I read a page from Doreen Virtue's Daily Guidance from Your Angels this morning, and the message is to surrender your cares. Then I logged on Facebook and saw "It is crucial to be diligent about taking care of ourselves, especially during stressful periods." (...In All Our Affairs)
Sometimes we eat for emotional reasons, and if we ask the Angels, the Ascended Masters, Father/Mother God, or a Higher Power (whoever you pray to) to take those concerns from us, the motive behind the eating binge disappears. When we don't have enough time or energy to exercise, we can ask the Divine Realm to make a way for exercise to be easier for us.
Taking care of ourselves IS crucial. When we are able to put down the worries of the world we're able to feel centered and peaceful, and that makes taking care of ourselves so much easier.
"I'm not smiling because I'm stronger than my problems. I'm smiling because God is stronger than my problems." Mhar
In love and light,
Krystal Kay White
Our eating habits and activity levels boil down to our willingness to take care of ourselves. And I say willingness, because we have the ability to take care of ourselves, we just don't always carry it out.
As I thought about this topic, I realized I don't need to pull a card. The messages to take care of ourselves are all around us. I read a page from Doreen Virtue's Daily Guidance from Your Angels this morning, and the message is to surrender your cares. Then I logged on Facebook and saw "It is crucial to be diligent about taking care of ourselves, especially during stressful periods." (...In All Our Affairs)
Sometimes we eat for emotional reasons, and if we ask the Angels, the Ascended Masters, Father/Mother God, or a Higher Power (whoever you pray to) to take those concerns from us, the motive behind the eating binge disappears. When we don't have enough time or energy to exercise, we can ask the Divine Realm to make a way for exercise to be easier for us.
Taking care of ourselves IS crucial. When we are able to put down the worries of the world we're able to feel centered and peaceful, and that makes taking care of ourselves so much easier.
"I'm not smiling because I'm stronger than my problems. I'm smiling because God is stronger than my problems." Mhar
In love and light,
Krystal Kay White
Sunday, February 24, 2013
When to End a Friendship
The question of when to end a friendship can be tricky. There are matters of loyalty, trust, and history involved. And then there's that ego-voice in the back of our minds telling us we *have* to get along with others, it wouldn't be very spiritually advanced of us to not to like someone. But to stay centered in our highest spiritual selves, we sometimes do need to cut ties with people who are bringing toxic energies to our lives.
I pulled one card today, to see what the angels had to say about ending a friendship. The card was Queen of Fire. I was a little surprised to see Fire, and not Water or Air, but I trust the angels. Fire is desires, and the Queen can be yourself, or creating. So create your desires.
The message written on the card is "Stretch your wings and fly." Additional messages of this card are "Don't underestimate yourself," and "You'll naturally attract other people to assist you."
If someone in your life is weighing you down, so you're not able to spread your wings and fly, it's absolutely okay to distance yourself, even if it means ending a friendship. Have faith in yourself, healthier relationships are coming.
In love and light,
Krystal Kay White
I pulled one card today, to see what the angels had to say about ending a friendship. The card was Queen of Fire. I was a little surprised to see Fire, and not Water or Air, but I trust the angels. Fire is desires, and the Queen can be yourself, or creating. So create your desires.
The message written on the card is "Stretch your wings and fly." Additional messages of this card are "Don't underestimate yourself," and "You'll naturally attract other people to assist you."
If someone in your life is weighing you down, so you're not able to spread your wings and fly, it's absolutely okay to distance yourself, even if it means ending a friendship. Have faith in yourself, healthier relationships are coming.
In love and light,
Krystal Kay White
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