Tuesday, March 12, 2013

How to Say No and Not Feel Bad About It

So many of us have trouble saying no. There's a joke going around Facebook that "No" is a complete sentence, and if anyone needs a longer explanation, the longer version is "Hell, no."

Joking aside, we tend to feel guilty -- or perhaps more accurately, people try to make us feel guilty -- when we don't do what they want. If you're a people-pleaser (like I am), saying no is one of the most difficult life skills to learn. So how can you say no and not feel bad about it? 

The answer is: Listen to Your True Feelings. (Which is a card from the Magical Unicorns deck.) The printed message on the card is "Don't let others talk you into doing something you know is wrong." And this doesn't necessarily only pertain to things that are wrong in a criminal or immoral sense. This pertains to matters that are wrong for you at any given time. 

Deep inside, whether you call it a little voice, your intuition, or Divine Guidance, you know what's right for you, and you know what's wrong for you. If someone asks you to do something that's not in alignment with your best and highest self, saying no is the right thing to do. 

In love and light,
Krystal Kay White

1 comment:

  1. Yes to no! I struggle with this, too, especially in terms of commitments like belonging to a sport's team.